Task for the day: Feel the breath on/in the nostrils.
One of the initial thoughts that came to me this morning was that I am in a voluntary prison. The physical boundaries (i.e., a closed gate at the exit so I can’t get out, even if I do decide to leave my purse behind [I can always get another driver’s license…]; the curtain that separates the men from the women in the dining hall; and all of the little wooden signs that literally say “COURSE BOUNDARY”) are constant reminders that I am very limited in what I can do. Further, the regimented schedule, and the bells that constantly ring telling us exactly when we can move to the next part of that schedule (and not a moment before; i.e., no showering before the 4 am bell rings; no entering the dining hall before the 6:30/11/5 o’clock bells ring; no ending a meditation session before its bell rings) are also constant reminders that I have pretty much no control. Add onto all of this the mediocre food (so even though I get to choose the items to eat of the ones offered, it’s sometimes a game of selecting the least-unappealing item…), the complete silence, and the physical appearance of myself and my fellow meditators (i.e., we are all wearing lounge pants and sweatshirts/fleece jackets, so it looks like we are all sporting the same prison-esque garb), and well, it’s kinda like what I imagine a low-security prison is like. Or rehab. (Though mercifully I have never been to either one [just to stop any potential rumors right there!], so this is all speculation on my part.)
In fact, at dinner tonight, I looked around the dining hall accidentally (force of habit), and all of my fellow meditators just looked whipped! We all looked exhausted, and in pain, and annoyed – I don’t know how sitting still and experience sensations is such tough work, but it IS!
But, back to the morning of Day Two.
Last night was another rough one sleep-wise, and my back was already letting me know it was unhappy with this whole dramatic change in lifestyle, so this morning I relied on two “props” to get me through: caffeine, and Tylenol. Both REALLY helped. I was at least able to make it through the morning meditation sessions.
During the two morning sessions, I did not spend a whole lot of time with my breath; instead, my mind generated tons of inventions – new products I could potentially sell, new processes I could potentially innovate, pretty much anything new I could reasonably grasp, apparently anything to avoid thinking about breathing – the real task at hand. Some of the inventions were actually pretty cool ideas; and some were just ridiculous and/or annoying. Basically, my mind was revolting, just as my body had done in the AM before I pacified it with some “helpers”. Alas, there was nothing I could do for my mind, except coax it back to the breath; which I just did over, and over, and over, and over, and over again.
While I certainly did not do ANYTHING perfectly at the center the entire 10 (12) days I was there, by mid morning I was experiencing some “success” regarding my breath. Somewhere around 9 am (?) that helpful, positive self-talk mind kicked in, and gave me an image I could use to work with my breath to begin to get my scattered mind focused. Instead of visualizing inventions, I began to visualize this image.
And when my mind did get off track and ambled into the wilderness, after a few minutes it came back, and it found a positive supporter; my self talk said, “Hi there. You know, I really want to play with this whole breath thing; but I can only play when you are here. Will you please play with me?” And so we did.
And at that point, watching and feeling my breath got a LOT easier.
So, the afternoon was actually a positive experience! I felt the tide shifting.
By the evening, though, things had changed once again. (This will become another theme of this experience: the constancy of change.) During the evening meditation, my thoughts were along these lines: “I’m irritated, and downright angry. I hurt. I’m hungry. I want a hug. I want Joel. I want a kiss. I want a massage. I want love. This trip might be worth it if I learn something new, but so far everything that has been said are things I already know!”
(What I find amusing about that above paragraph is that, at the time, I couldn’t see that ALREADY I was experiencing something new; a mind that was at least sometimes helpful and positive, instead of a mind that was formerly pretty much irritated and distracted 24/7.)
During the evening lecture, the teacher gave a teaser: A “promise” of something new and cool happening on Day 4. Honestly, that was the only reason why I didn’t say “screw all of this” and quit right then and there. I mean, I KNOW how to breathe!!
And then, I laughed at myself. Seriously, I would walk away from potential nirvana and inner peace and bliss because I was annoyed for a single 24-hour period of time? Stef, you are ridiculous!
I shook my head at myself, and smiled with amusement. I swear, my mind behaves like a three-year-old sometimes. Apparently it’s time to put me to bed.